People hate what makes them feel vulnerable.
This is the cause of so many of the greatest tragedies.
It is why we have masked our very reality with the lullabies of death.
Wake up, wake up if you’re sleeping.
There isn’t much time.
But there is still time. Love. Create.
Give birth to your own life. The time is now.

14th February 2012

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Just a little note.

I’m seeing a lot of commentary on love out there today. Lots of the usual stuff, lots of people feeling lonely, lots of different perspectives. And the dialogue is important, like it is on any subject. I thought about whether or not to say anything myself, and then I figured…why not? People can always scroll past.

I just wanted to say this…if you don’t have someone to spend Valentine’s day with, try not to feel too lonely. It is a day like any other day, and the truly special person will make every day special for you, not just a day saturated with pink and red hearts, too much candy, and far too many risque commercials. 

This is a day that can destroy even a good relationship. It is a day that builds up expectations to a fever pitch, and alienates even the best of hearts into bitterness. Sure, Valentine’s Day can be a lovely, fun day, but I think the core problem with it is expectation.

Expectations, between lovers or any two people, can be very destructive. Often they are not voiced, and so disappointment and conflict are nearly inevitable. A relationship that might begin on another day and blossom into something awesome and evolve organically into a beautiful lover/friendship binary may collapse pointlessly under the strain of a commercial observance. Romance, love, thoughtfulness, and spontaneity should come regularly for no particular reason in a relationship to keep it healthy. So, don’t feel like you are worthless today or not worth loving if you don’t have a date. The truth is far the opposite. 

All the same, I’m not saying I can’t appreciate the fun of a day like this and I’m not knocking it down. I guess I just felt like mentioning the thoughts in my mind, and it’s my blog so I guess that’s where I put something like this. ;)

For some long-established couples, especially marriages that have lapsed into a state of apathy and could use an opportunity to give things a jump-start, I think Valentine’s day can be a place to begin again. So I don’t think it’s a wholly useless affair. Like anything, there are always multiple perspectives, and there is always a positive, or many positives, among the negative. 

So, I guess maybe I’m saying, don’t take it too seriously or too personally. Take the time to remember that to fair well in a healthy love, one must love him/herself. Treat yourself to something lovely and remind yourself you’re worth it today. Read some inspiring poetry, find a new perfume, or create art, whatever you fancy.

And love isn’t just about the romantic love. Show and celebrate compassion, significance, gratitude, loyalty, friends, family, all kinds of love. We are blessed and lucky to have even one good friend in our lives, so make sure to reach out to each other, and strengthen the network of love in all directions. 

I am sending out some rays from my heart to you, wherever you are. You are alive and you are valuable. Remember it today. 

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